Hello my name is Debi Davidson and welcome to my website.
People come to counselling because they may be dealing with feelings of loss and grief, or that they keep being reminded of abuse they suffered from during childhood and are still struggling with the pain today. Working through these painful events together can help you to become more empowered and give you the tools to make positive changes to lead a happier and healthier life.
I am able to provide psychotherapy and counselling to individuals and couples who are looking to deal with a range of emotional, relational and psychological problems. I will listen carefully to your story whilst obtaining an understanding of you and what is troubling you.
I have a Diploma in Transactional Analysis Counselling and am currently preparing for my CTA training at the Berne Institute in Nottingham as a Transactional Analysis (TA) Psychotherapist and have completed four years of professional training. I am very passionate about TA and how it can help change the way people think about themselves and others.
I offer appointments at my practice in the City of London and this site provides details about what to expect. During your session you will be able to talk about your problems openly without prejudice.
Counselling tends to be a shorter term process focusing on problem solving or a specific challenge.
Psychotherapy is a longer term, deeper process.
Areas I work with
I am able to help clients with difficulties which may include:
- Domestic Abuse
- Eating Disorders
- Panic Attacks
- Physical Abuse
- Self Esteem/Confidence
- Sexuality and Sex Related Issues
- Sexual Abuse
- Work issues
Therapy in General
Therapy can treat specific diagnosable mental health conditions such as anxiety, depression, addiction, relationship problems, stress management, abuse, career ambitions, or other issues that may affect a person's mental well-being. Unhappiness or distress can establish in the form of challenging feelings, behaviours, beliefs and sensations in the body. A therapist can serve as a listening ear, help identify underlying causes of symptoms, help support lifestyle changes, and provide specific strategies or techniques for changing unwanted thoughts, feelings and behaviours.
When any of these conditions begin to interfere with your normal routine, then seeking help from a therapist might be beneficial and through therapy, people gather tools to face challenges, manage symptoms, and improve stress. For many of my clients, they have enjoyed their therapeutic journey as it allows them to become more self-aware and some have returned as they work on further areas of self-growth.
Individual therapy is very much a collaborative process between therapist and client that aims to help the client to facilitate change and improve their quality of life by engaging in self-reflective process on their emotions and behaviours. Therapy gives people the strength to confront barriers that may be very painful or that interfere with mental wellbeing. It can increase positive feelings such as love, self-esteem and compassion.
In couples therapy this would normally involve an intense focus on improving the communication patterns within the couple. This involves the therapist entering the couple’s way of life more directly. Habits and routines with each other would be brought into the session where the therapist would offer feedback about the interactions the couple are having and suggest ways that they could improve them. This may also involve couples practicing new techniques away from the therapy session. Both partners are invited to co-create the process of change.
Membership of Professional Organisations
British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy (BACP) (Membership No: 00958826)
The United Kingdom Association of Transactional Analysis (UKATA) (Membership No: 3601)
The European Association of Transactional Analysis (EATA) (Associated with UKATA Membership)
The United Kingdom Council for Psychotherapy (UKCP) (Trainee Membership No: 2011165459)
Professional Code of Ethics
I adhere to the BACP, EATA, UKATA and UKCP's Code of Ethics.
Transactional Analysis (TA) is a theory developed by Dr Eric Berne in the 1950s. It is a social psychology and a method to improve communication.
The theory outlines how we have developed and treat ourselves, how we relate and communicate with others, and offers suggestions and interventions which will enable us to change and grow.
TA is underpinned by the philosophy that:
People can change
We all have a right to be in the world and be accepted.
Today TA is used in psychotherapy, counselling, organisations and educational and is an effective method of enhancing relationships with oneself and with others.
Berne devised the concept of ego states to help explain how we are made up, and how we relate to others. These are drawn as three stacked circles and they are one of the building blocks of TA. They categorise the ways we think, feel and behave and are called Parent, Adult, and Child. Each ego state is given a capital letter to denote the difference between actual parents, adults and children.
A stroke is a unit of recognition and can take the form of a smile, a frown, a criticism or a compliment. A stroke can be both positive or negative, verbal or non-verbal and conditional or unconditional. Any transaction between people is an exchange of strokes. Most transactions involve both verbal and non-verbal exchanges, with a possible exception of written communications. Strokes are necessary for human existence and when we can not obtain positive strokes, then we may settle for negative ones because we need any strokes for survival. Focusing on strokes is an effective way of changing one's relationship with others and understanding our reasons for accepting certain strokes. Increasing the awareness can allow beneficial and meaningful change. Learning to get or stop filtering the positive strokes, leads to feeling better about oneself.
The script is a life plan which is developed as we are growing up and made from our early decisions based upon our life experiences. Depending on our particular script, we can interpret an event in a number of different ways. There is a beginning, middle and end and there are characters that play significant roles, such as the heroes and those who were the villains, making the story tragic, futile or exciting. The theory of life-script was developed by Eric Berne who says that our stories are written unconsciously from birth. Between the ages of 0-7 years, the roles are allocated and by 7 all the main parts of the story are plotted, tweaked and polished through to the age of 12 years. We rely on fantasy based beliefs through our younger years and through adolescence our scripts are updated with more tangible characters.
Why does this always keep happening to me? I always keep meeting people who hurt me and then go off and leave me! We may like to help people and then it goes wrong as the person we are trying to help says that we got it wrong. When similar situations keep happening over and over again, then the term TA uses for this is a game. Berne states that a game is a familiar pattern of behaviour with a predictable outcome and are played outside of Adult awareness and they are out best attempt to get our needs met but we don't. Games are learned patterns of behaviour, and we play some favorite games with different people in varying intensities.
Membership of Professional Organisations
I am a member of the following professional organisations:
The European Association of Transactional Analysis (EATA) which is the European professional body for the practice of Transactional Analysis.
The United Kingdom Association of Transactional Analysis (UKATA) which is the UK professional body for the practice of Transactional Analysis.
The United Kingdom Council for Psychotherapy (UKCP) which is the governing body for psychotherapy in the United Kingdom.
Professional Code of Ethics
I adhere to the UKATA, EATA and UKCP’s Code of Ethics.
For details of training and qualifications, please see the relevant page from the menu.
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